Also I just plain have no interest in talking to a hateful drug addict. I like to believe it is possible and maybe one day in the future we will be able to be friends. You can still care for that person and be cordial, but a friendship is hard—especially if there are feelings on any side. The first week, it may not be a good idea to talk to one another because with wounds still fresh, somebody may end up saying something they will later regret. Time is necessary for all of us. If your parties, and I mean both parties, can get past the romantic issues and any baggage of bitterness then a friendship is talking.
It definitely varies, but if you can BOTH manage to have a responsible relationship after, I say go ahead.
You're in! Not severing all ties immediately will help both parties to ease yours the new situation of being apart. After all, it is difficult to never again see or speak to someone whom you once truly cared for. And then the time the relationship lasted, if not longer, must pass if you date for three months, three months need to pass talking re-establishing contact. There is one ex of mine in particular whom I do not maintain a friendship with whatsoever because our relationship was destructive and unfruitful.
Oftentimes friends of mine have tried to focus too much on the friendship part right after the breakup and it just ends up making the situation worse. Now, talking to an ex should not be the same as talking to a ificant other. About a year later we reconnected, but without the baggage, and are now good friends with completely separate lives. See you Friday. Also, your ex could say something that makes you even more upset.
It also depends on how physical the relationship was. It will only cause you heartbreak. However, after that initial period, it can be helpful to talk once in a while.
Learn more about Thought Catalog and our writers on our about. I really believe its best for both parties despite what they feel for the other person to let go and move on.
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Follow Thought Catalog. I do believe in being friendly, or at least polite especially when you have mutual friends. Believe me, I come from both sides of the fence. Once you decide to breakup, break up.
I find it hard to find the new boundaries of friendship with someone who you were once so intimate with. Exes can be great friends. You just have to let it go talking move on. THEN, you can decide yours becoming friends or mere acquaintances or strangers is right for the two of you. My own experiences have not led me to want to be friends with my ex, which I think says something on its own.
But only if you have a clear idea that you two were beautiful together in the idea of past, but not present. Once in a while, it is okay to send a text message or an or even to talk on the phone or in person.
Get our newsletter every Friday! Let him come back on his own…. Guess what? From now on, he will always have the upper hand. No matter who broke up you will be doing both a favor by being strong and just toughing it out. Cry, sob, be miserable. The idea of love has vanished, but friendship is sailing. Definitely not if one person still wants to date or marry!
It is like grieving a death. If you work together or pass by on the street, fine.
I think it really depends on what kind of breakup it was. For those that can maintain the friendship after the split—kudos. He got my phone a few weeks later and called begging for money. No matter what happened. We ask each other about career advice, sometimes personal choice or about health and life.
On the other side of that coin is another ex who has loved me like no other till the end of time. Well, at times you may feel like connecting again. I know this is corny but every dark cloud does have a silver lining. Be wise, if it is over, let it go. Then he wrote asking me to cover for him with his wife because she was suspicious of the affair he was having. Get your copy today.
And its true—why chase someone who cannot see your value? About the author Back to the basics. And because of his nature and the loving kindness of our relationship we managed to maintain a beautiful friendship immediately after we broke up, and even over long distance to this day.
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It will hurt as hell in the talking, but it WILL get better in time. To ignore that or deny that it has ANY affect at all is superficial. This is a very unusual situation for me. Delete his phone from your mobile phone so you are not tempted.
Why risk causing problems for each other by maintaining regular contact? I find it hard to imagine not wanting to be friends with someone who you at one point thought was a very good person, good enough to date. I meant both of you. Just believe that yours good is awaiting. Especially go see him.
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More From Thought Catalog. When you get your heart broken it is only normal to feel sad and remember the good times: the flowers, the sex, the laughs, and the love. Perhaps with a little caution and consideration of any new relationships.
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You deserve that. I think a lot of space is essential especially in the beginning and then after that it is important to just be friendly. But if your relationship was complicated and messy than its better to just walk away and leave it at that.
Men like to figure things out on their own, and sometimes it takes being apart from the woman for a while before the man realizes how much he misses her and loves her. Delete him from your Facebook friends too. We should get together with our families and catch up sometime. Once we break up, we break up. I have a ex that I care about and we a both married but I would rather have him and accept him as a friend than lose all contact with him. If you call before he has thought things through, and before he has had time to really miss you, you could interrupt the process…which could lead to him breaking it off yours you for good.
Someone always ends up getting hurt. Otherwise, it prevents talking people from moving on with their lives. You should try and stop yourself from doing so I think as you will still be emotional and will end up saying something that you regret and make the situation worse. It depends on an entire grab bag of things—maturity, the past relationship, so many factors.
It can be good to catch up every couple of years. That being said I have yet to remain friends with an ex nor have I had an ex that I would want to remain friends with. My ex-boyfriend and first real love whom I dated for over two years came to my wedding!
I think one thing is for certain. Best to just cut contact. articles from Jessica on Thought Catalog. I broke up with guy I cared a lot about but realized that I was not really in love with him.